Unfortunately, it simply
boils down to a decision of “Yes” or “No”. I lost my productivity and
efficiency and ultimately happiness because of just these two words “Yes” or “No”.
And actually, come to think of it, its not only me but all of us – for that
matter even my daughter Siya now. Often people say “Yes” when they mean “No” or
“No” when they should say “Yes”. “Yes” and “No” are a negotiation of another
person’s request. Each word has to be used wisely, judiciously, and with grace,
with your inner-harmony in mind as it has a direct impact on your well-being. I
really don’t remember the book I read but it was about a two-headed animal with
a single body. Most of us can often visualize ourselves this way where we are
heading towards opposite direction at the same time. It is important to avoid
such a situation because this state of unnecessary indecision lowers your
energy rate and it drains away your personal power rather than strengthening
it. To make a decision quickly and not vacillate or second guess oneself is a
critical life-skill. It is especially important with the acceleration of the
world around us today, fast decisions are asked of us minute-by-minute. People
who can make decision faster without vacillating don’t hide from life but live
their life.
The power behind “Yes”
and “No” is when you state them truthfully. When that is the case, you tend to
strengthen the relationship with yourself and moreover with others too. When me
and Siya talk, I many a time tend to give Siya an illusion of a “Complicated
Life” that I lead. To which she simply asks me – tell me the truth, what will
make you happy. And this question completely clears the clutter for me. Being
truthful to yourself and to others is actually an art of simplification which makes
you more pure, more real and always approachable and lovable. Then what makes
me think so much! If I say “No” people will get mad at me, if I say “Yes”, what
will he think about me and so on and on. Soon I realized - When you take care
of yourself, your relationships work. What I mean by this, is that if you don’t
honour what is in your well-being, and come from a place of trying to please people
or to try to make them like or love you more, by giving them what they want, it
always backfires. Take up any incidence of your life where you followed the “please
people” way and not “please me” way. I am sure you would have realized that you
suffered, your relationship suffered and ultimately the other person too. Only
because your heart closes the energetic reach to the person. You can always say
“No” with grace because when you do that, you gain respect and you are still
viewed as generous and kind.
So use your power of choice to say “Yes” or “No”
when you mean it.
