When I look back today, I almost feel like laughing on myself on how busy I use to be. I think I was just serious about my ability to be a superwoman :-). I could work for 16 hours per day in office, raise Siya, cook, dance, choreograph shows, exercise, travel, clean, network, facebook, blog and on and on. I could do it all and then some. I would always think that everyone is doing it all and so can I. But if I look back, I didn't want to really do it all. Doing it all made me exhausted, it cost me friendships, it cost me my health. My busyness wasn't even a bit silly. To get less busy was not an accident but a decision I made on purpose. This surely does not mean you compromise on your career or on your family or anything of that sort. I realized that by even being less busy, I was moving ahead, reaching closer to my goal. I made the decision that a busy life wasn’t a life for me.
Being a good person, loving wife, mother, an inspiration for my sub-ordinates and friend…that was the life I
wanted.More than that, I wanted freedom to do things that made made my heart sing instead of things that weighed me down. And most of the times it is because you are overwhelmed that you can't figure out how to change. Do you also have one these symptoms that I suffered from:
- People would ask me "how are you?" and my answer would be "very busy", "lots of work", etc
- I can only talk to family or friends in car because I have no time otherwise
- I forget that I am hungry and its lunch time
- I would check emails, facebook, linkedin several times a day.
- Prepare lists after lists so that you dont forget anything
- Would volunteer for almost everything just to make sure I am in good books of everyone
and so on and on.
All it needed me to do is (which I learned from my boss sometime back but implemented now):
- Be unproductive for 1 day in a week.
- check mails only x times a day
- delete all unwanted mails, do not feel that if you get lots of emails (which are really unwanted), you have lots of work.
- turn off your computer when you not working
- turn everything off in the car (except the car :-) )
- help someone
- do less, be more
- Delegate and give ownership at work place to your team and peers - Don't believe that you you are the only one who can do this best, be a mentor and a guide to help them achieve their best.
And I soon realized that I could still be as productive as before without being overwhelmed about my task list.
- People would ask me "how are you?" and my answer would be "very busy", "lots of work", etc
- I can only talk to family or friends in car because I have no time otherwise
- I forget that I am hungry and its lunch time
- I would check emails, facebook, linkedin several times a day.
- Prepare lists after lists so that you dont forget anything
- Would volunteer for almost everything just to make sure I am in good books of everyone
and so on and on.
All it needed me to do is (which I learned from my boss sometime back but implemented now):
- Be unproductive for 1 day in a week.
- check mails only x times a day
- delete all unwanted mails, do not feel that if you get lots of emails (which are really unwanted), you have lots of work.
- turn off your computer when you not working
- turn everything off in the car (except the car :-) )
- help someone
- do less, be more
- Delegate and give ownership at work place to your team and peers - Don't believe that you you are the only one who can do this best, be a mentor and a guide to help them achieve their best.
And I soon realized that I could still be as productive as before without being overwhelmed about my task list.
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