Change in my life

Had a good time yesterday chatting with one of my very good friends. Not sure if I got across her well but this is only for her....She made me realize a very important change in my life

What do near-fatal incidents and self reflection make one feel like? They both, for me at least, help to put life into perspective. Each of these offers a different view point, for example a close encounter might help us to realise what really matters to us and what isn’t worth the stress. Similarly, self reflection can help us see where we may be wasting time or opportunities and how we can improve on that. I don’t know if it is just me, but when my husband was not well, Siya was not well and when mom underwent a bypass, I cease worrying about all my little problems and stop thinking. After sitting down and pondering over this for a while, and thinking on why was this happening. I was JUST aligning myself with truth.

--> The little problems we have in life really aren’t that important
--> Our time on earth is limited and we should make the most of it
--> This is it, this is life, right now

There were more things that became clear to me, but those are arguably the most important. Once I had this realisation, I started to look at how I can apply this simple understanding of truth in my life. After all, simply telling ourselves to “make the most of this opportunity or learn from this incidence” rarely results in some continued, effective, output. I decided to look at my current situation and I formed two questions that helped me to really put things into perspective. I believe that everyone can benefit from answering these.

Question 1: What does my day look like to someone else?
Would they see you working hard at in your day job? Would they see you wasting time on irrelevant activities? Would they see you fighting with someone? Would they see you struggling and stressed out? Would they see you as someone racing with time?
I don’t know what it is about this question, but when I asked it to myself, the answer wasn’t pretty. "How you live each day is, of course, how you live your life" - Is that correct? It is only through honest self-assessment through this question that you can realise where your shortcomings may lie.


Question 2: Based on your current actions and behaviors, where would you expect to be in five years?
Note that this isn’t asking where you would like to be; this is taking into consideration your current efforts and looking at where you would expect to be. As with the previous question, answering this requires you being totally truthful. Unlike my response to the first question, my answer to this was fairly positive. It is only through giving a truthful answer to this question that I can fix my flaws, rather than living in the illusion that I’m doing my best or everything is as good as it can be.

I truly hope that everyone who has taken the time to really ponder over this has benefited from gaining a new, honest perspective about their lives. Now it’s just up to change the things that you feel you should.

My dear friend, do try this out and let me know if it makes a difference...